Kind of hard to believe how much has changed since my last post (it feels like a year ago!) – how are you holding up in the midst of all this Coronavirus craziness?
I really hope that, in spite of everything that’s going on right now, you and your loved ones are safe and healthy.
I’ve been thinking a lot about these past few weeks, and like many people, I’ve been trying to make some sense out of this weird, scary, surreal experience of social distancing and quarantine life.
You know, when I first heard about the Coronavirus back in December, I didn’t really think it would – or even could – become this massive global threat.
Call it ignorance. Call it bliss.
I call it hope.
I had hoped that someone, somewhere, would find a quick cure and it would be over before it began.
When mid-March rolled around, I was still pretty hopeful. I remember hearing more and more reports coming in about the Coronavirus, about the possible effects on the economy and thinking, “we’ll be fine.”
It just didn’t seem like that big a deal yet.
It wasn’t until I went to Trader Joe’s for my weekly grocery run and it looked like this…
… that I started to feel the heaviness of what was happening.
What can take a person from NBD to OMG better than a grocery store with no groceries?
That’s some apocalypse-as-seen-on-TV stuff, and my first panic-y thought (after “why isn’t anyone buying the tater tots?”) was…
“Should I be afraid?”
Turns out this was the real question on everyone’s mind – family, friends, neighbors, clients – all wondering…
Should we be afraid? Should we be worried about this?
And once I understood that this was the underlining thought behind all of our uneasiness and anxiety, the answer was really simple.
Should we be afraid?
Now how can I say that, when clearly things have gotten worse with the spread of the virus? How can I say that when this feels terrifying?
Fear doesn’t help. Never has. Never will.
The only helpful thing about fear is that it can show us where we’re getting caught up in our head. Where we’re getting caught up in unhelpful thinking.
Fear pulls us out of the “okay-ness” of the present moment and pushes us into the “not-okay-ness” of past memories (which are just thoughts) and future worries (which are just thoughts).
It blocks our creativity, our sense of humor, our trust in life, our resourcefulness and our clarity of mind.
It robs our joy, steals our peace and prevents us from being and giving our best.
So, should we be afraid?
But…should we pay attention? Should we be aware? Should we be cautious and smart? Should we do what we can to take care of ourselves and others? Should we wash our hands? And stay home?
YES!!!!! Of course! Absolutely!
We need to do whatever we can to stop the spread, flatten the curve and help nurse the world back to health – but being afraid won’t help anyone. Or you.
So, be brave, keep going, stay hopeful and notice when fear tries to hijack your thinking…then hijack it right back!
Life will return to normal, and everything will be okay.
In the meantime I’m here if you need me.
Sending you so much love,